50 Shades of Manipulation

I haven't read the book, but I find it very strange that we are currently celebrating the best-selling novel and soon to be movie "50 Shades of Grey" which contains violent sex, while at the same time we have football players saying 'no more' when it comes to violence against women. I'm assuming it is consensual in the book, but considering the mindset of the modern male and the growing number of them already in the hooks of porn addiction, should we really add something to our culture that makes this type of behavior not just acceptable, but fashionable? Having millions of women anxiously awaiting the premier of a movie about a handsome millionaire who's into violent sex might send the wrong message to that weird accountant who has a girlfriend who's too afraid to tell him 'no' when he talks about doing what they saw in the movie or read in the book. So, we have what appears to be consensual sex, but in her mind it isn't consensual at all. He's used the popularity of "50 Shades..." to make her feel as if it isn't that big of a deal. Sorry, but raising a daughter in a culture where so many men see women as objects is scary enough without women, themselves, making this "acceptable" in some way.

On the other hand, it usually doesn't work both ways. Remember all of the women in their 40's being Team Jacob or Team Edward during the Twilight craze? I doubt that would have worked with a bunch of forty-year-old men holding signs outside of movie theaters proclaiming their love of one teenage girl over another.

Still, are we not to think that the popularity of "50 Shades" is going to make some very strange men think - "if they like the book so much, then they must like the content"? In other words, these sickos will think that violent sex is now ok because it has made it to the mainstream and the main character Christian Grey is cool...right? I'm not saying it will cause an increase in rape, but perhaps there will be men out there who will think this is acceptable to all women just because they made a book popular? Please let me know if I'm speaking out of turn here. Being a guy I've never read the book, so for all I know he turns out to be the bad guy in the end. It just seems like male lead is being glorified for his perversions (from what I've seen so far). Sadomasochism isn't necessarily anger as much as it is fetishistic behavior, but there are some angry people out there that can use it as an outlet for their rage. Just to reiterate, my fear is that it will be expected - just like so many men now expect their girlfriends and wives to act like unnatural porn stars in the bedroom.